I'm posting this here because not everyone wants to hear this. Although I think that all the people judging me should take a good look at what I have to say and then sit back and take a good look at what you have already been lead to believe. Let's start at the beginning and see how far we get.
First off I am not STEALING, TAKING, ROBBING or BLEEDING Rob dry. Robert has a responsibility as a father to pay support for his children. So that his children have food, clothing and a roof over their heads. Well, the truth of it is he hasn't been paying his support. Over a year ago Rob entered into an agreement with me in which he would pay me spousal support so that I could get on my feet, get my own apartment and figure out how to move on with my life. Well that lasted for a total of 4 months!! Way to go Rob!! So what happened? Rob cut me off. Told me he didn't want to pay me anything and he didn't want to talk about it. His response was "take me to court". So I did!! To date Rob owes me over $8000! At $10,000 he could go to jail for 30 days. So what am I supposed to do? Beg Rob for money? Tell the police not to arrest him? Or sit and wait for the day Rob looses HALF his pay cheque? Well since I don't want to talk to him and I'm afraid to be anywhere near him, I think I'll sit back and wait. Which really sucks because I have rent to pay and no way to pay it!
So this lead to several conversations with several friends about deadbeat dads and how they manage to get away with it. I have given the government everything they need to take the money from Rob and give it to me. I don't want to sound greedy or bitchy but we need that money too. School is coming and I have no money to buy the kids any school supplies or back to school clothes. What am I supposed to do? Am I sorry that this has come to where it is? Yes. However, I'm sick of feeling sorry for Rob and letting everyone believe I'm the bad one! He made his share of mistakes(but those are for an entirely different blog), yet he won't admit anything. Not even to himself. He now has himself believing he's the victim!! Seriously? There are always two sides to every story and I can say for sure that no one has asked for mine.
So on the topic of deadbeat dads, child support and money here's the bottom line. Rob owes me nearly $10,000 in back support payments. He tried to buy me off with a $300 WalMart gift card!! Not a legit support payment. Over the last 8 months I have received a total of $900! I have had custody of the kids since March and he doesn't seem to care what they need. In fact, Rob is more interested in lying to the kids. Again, something better left to another blog. Bottom line is I'm not trying to take his money, I'm asking for what he agreed to, in writing. I'm asking him to live up to his obligations as a father. Forget who did what to who and why for right now and just grow up and take care of your kids financially! Be a man for God's sake. For those of you who think I'm "keeping" the kids from him or "brainwashing" them, I'm not. They are welcome to visit with their father, truth is though they don't want to. They are tired of being lied to and tired of being made to feel guilty. They haven't seen him in over a month, but not because I haven't tried. Three times I have tried so set up arrangements with Rob and all three times Rob chose to play games with the kids until the kids BOTH decided they didn't want to go. Be a man and tell the kids the truth! Stop playing games with them. They want to spend time with their father, just tell them what they are going to be doing. Aah, but as I said, this is an entirely different blog.
My point today is to tell it like it is. Rob is a man who needs to pay his child support and is choosing not to. He has chosen that path for months. Its time he grew a set and became a responsible man. How else will his children learn? Well, I guess they will learn, and they are.....just not from him!!
One more thing I should like to add!!! The only reason I'm not out working myself right now is because I'm in school full time and I'm not allowed to work, even part time, as per a contract I signed with the Ontario Government. Otherwise I would be working.
